"GROWING OLD AIN’T FOR SISSYS"
CULTURAL VIEW OF AGING
Our culture is obsessed with the idea of youthfulness! (which is the opposite of aging) How long ago did we hear that 40 is the new 30, 60 the new 50! Everything we see advertised is either about masking the bodily pains of aging or touting a drug, natural or synthetic to keep aging at bay or even reversing it. We advertise communities where our golden years are spent bike riding, golfing, swimming, our social life filled with friends and our sleep restful!!
Remember the comedian, Jeff Foxworthy and his “you know you’re a redneck if….” well, you know you’re getting old if…:
· You’re riding a bike and your knees make more noise than the bicycle chain!
· You don’t so much break your new year’s resolutions as just forget what they are!
Here are some adages from the comic strip "Maxine":
· I don’t know how to act my age, I’ve never been this age before!
· I don’t want to say I’m old and worn out but I make sure I’m nowhere near the curb on trash day!
· I’ve finally figured out what I want to be when I get old, I want to be young!
· Don’t let aging get you down – it’s too hard to get back up!
Now, what our culture says about aging is not so much out-right lies, there are small truths in our jokes and skewed views on aging. But really, our golden years are not so golden for everyone. 40 in not the new 30! Yes, as we age we collect aches and pains and yes, we are fortunate to have ways to ease our pains though we can’t always afford all these ways! We cannot stop our aging, we cannot reverse our aging and no we don’t always sleep all night uninterrupted. Yes we can play golf or basketball or swimming or other activities, but when we do we pay for it immediately and are always reminded that we are not young anymore!
Let’s talk about two other cultural misconceptions about old people; the first is we don’t like change; we resist change and are incapable of adjusting to change. I’m reading a book by Will Willimon. Will is theologian (he and I are on a first name basis, Will just doesn’t know this). Will is also a retired Methodist pastor and bishop, and is currently a professor at Duke Divinity School. He is one of the most read authors by pastors. In his book “Aging” Will references an article he read concerning the 6-8 most difficult transitions we make in life; most of them will occur after the age of 65. Transitions such as declining health, loss of independence, unemployment, loss of a spouse, loss of friends and the decline of institutions we relied on to keep us centered are among the major transitions we must make in life, and not by choice. It is true we old folks don’t like change, right along with everyone else; yet, we still make changes. We older folks, in truth, are drowning in changes, serious traumatic changes and we’re still chugging along.
And how about the second thing - us losing our mental agility? Yes we do have a reduced capacity to multi-task, this is a scientific fact, obviously this is the truth because science says so. Where once we could keep 7-8 balls in the air, we now can only keep 2 balls in the air. Additional proof of this is in the direct relationship with the number of steps we take to work our smart phones. Our kids and grandkids will gladly show us how to do one thing or another on our cell phones by rattling off 5 or 6 steps to take. Right?! By the time they reach step #6, we are just coming to terms with step #2, thus proving we can keep only 2 balls in the air at once. I think this reduced mental capacity is something we all can live with, don’t you?
Yet science has also shown we older folks have an increased capacity to reflect. I didn’t say day-dream; we are able to reflect more deeply than we could when we were younger, maybe this is because we have more uninterrupted time. Science has shown our brains do change as we get older but whatever the reason, thinking deeply about life is a gift, a gift from God and this gift can benefit our community, if we share it.
BIBLICAL VIEW ON AGING
What does the bible say about aging? Let’s take a deeper look at our 2nd scripture reading, Ecclesiastes 12:1-8. Here’s a little background on this puzzling book.
Ecclesiastes is “Wisdom Literature”, Wisdom literature deals with the way the world “works.” In this book, one of the most important words used to describe life is the Hebrew word, hebel. It is used 38 times. In Ecclesiastes, the word implies that life is fleeting, like a breath, like morning mist; it suggests that everything that happens lacks permanence and is ultimately provisional. After carefully examining nearly every aspect of life, the teacher, in Ecclesiastes, concludes that nothing lasts; nothing and no one can escape death, the great equalizer of all. Nevertheless, human beings are wired differently from other creatures, for God has placed eternity in our minds,
11and I know God has made everything beautiful for its time. God has also placed in our minds a sense of eternity; we look back on the past and ponder over the future, yet we cannot understand the doings of God. (3:11)
And the teacher summarizes the entire book with these words,
13when all is said and done, here is the last word: worship in reverence the one True God, and keep His commands, for this is what God expects of every person. 14For God will judge every action—including everything done in secret—whether it be good or evil. (12:13)
Now lets take a look at Ecclesiastes 12:1-8 (NRSV).
Ecclesiastes is “Wisdom Literature”, Wisdom literature deals with the way the world “works.” In this book, one of the most important words used to describe life is the Hebrew word, hebel. It is used 38 times. In Ecclesiastes, the word implies that life is fleeting, like a breath, like morning mist; it suggests that everything that happens lacks permanence and is ultimately provisional. After carefully examining nearly every aspect of life, the teacher, in Ecclesiastes, concludes that nothing lasts; nothing and no one can escape death, the great equalizer of all. Nevertheless, human beings are wired differently from other creatures, for God has placed eternity in our minds,
11and I know God has made everything beautiful for its time. God has also placed in our minds a sense of eternity; we look back on the past and ponder over the future, yet we cannot understand the doings of God. (3:11)
And the teacher summarizes the entire book with these words,
13when all is said and done, here is the last word: worship in reverence the one True God, and keep His commands, for this is what God expects of every person. 14For God will judge every action—including everything done in secret—whether it be good or evil. (12:13)
Now lets take a look at Ecclesiastes 12:1-8 (NRSV).
12 Remember your creator in the days of your youth, before the days of trouble come, and the years draw near when you will say, “I have no pleasure in them”; 2 before the sun and the light and the moon and the stars are darkened and the clouds return with the rain; 3 in the day when the guards of the house tremble, and the strong men are bent, and the women who grind cease working because they are few, and those who look through the windows see dimly; 4 when the doors on the street are shut, and the sound of the grinding is low, and one rises up at the sound of a bird, and all the daughters of song are brought low; 5 when one is afraid of heights, and terrors are in the road; the almond tree blossoms, the grasshopper drags itself along and desire fails; because all must go to their eternal home, and the mourners will go about the streets; 6 before the silver cord is snapped, and the golden bowl is broken, and the pitcher is broken at the fountain, and the wheel broken at the cistern, 7 and the dust returns to the earth as it was, and the breath returns to God who gave it. 8 Vanity of vanities, says the Teacher; all is vanity.
“ 1 Remember your creator in the days of your youth, ”
Well, we now know we will hear some advice; from an elder to a youth.
“ before the days of trouble come, and the years draw near when you will say, “I have no pleasure in them”; 2 before the sun and the light and the moon and the stars are darkened and the clouds return with the rain; ”
“ before the days of trouble come, and the years draw near when you will say, “I have no pleasure in them”; 2 before the sun and the light and the moon and the stars are darkened and the clouds return with the rain; ”
Yes, this is definitely about getting old.
‘ “I have no pleasure in them”, ’
I think we can see right off, this advice is not about fairy tale views of our “golden years”.
This reading from Ecclesiastes is a poetic but sober view on aging!
“ 3 in the day when the guards of the house tremble, ”
i.e., your hands begin to shake, your grip weakens.
“ and the strong men are bent, and the women who grind cease working because they are few ”
‘ “I have no pleasure in them”, ’
I think we can see right off, this advice is not about fairy tale views of our “golden years”.
This reading from Ecclesiastes is a poetic but sober view on aging!
“ 3 in the day when the guards of the house tremble, ”
i.e., your hands begin to shake, your grip weakens.
“ and the strong men are bent, and the women who grind cease working because they are few ”
Your legs get weak and your teeth get fewer.
“ and those who look through the windows see dimly ”
Your eye sight weakens,
“ 4 the doors on the street are shut ”
You get lonely, many of your friends are gone, the things you depended on, the things that allowed you to stay centered are all gone, changed or are changing.
“the sound of the grinding is low, and one rises up at the sound of a bird and all the daughters of song are brought low”,
You can’t get a good night’s sleep anymore and your voice gets weak and trembles.
“ 5 when one is afraid of heights, and terrors are in the road ”
You become timid and fearful.
“ the almond tree blossoms, the grasshopper drags itself along ”
Your hair becomes white, your limbs creak and you stumble.
“ and desire fails ”
Need I comment.
“ because all must go to their eternal home, and the mourners will go about the streets; 6 before the silver cord is snapped, and the golden bowl is broken, and the pitcher is broken at the fountain, and the wheel broken at the cistern, 7 and the dust returns to the earth as it was, and the breath returns to God who gave it. “
You die.
I know what I just said isn’t poetic, not like this reading from Ecclesiastes but it is equally blunt. Are we prepared for this? Well prepared or not - this is us!
The Old Testament’s view of old age, poetic at best, is still bleak but not without purpose. Listen to God speaking though the prophet Joel.
“28 Then in those days I will pour My Spirit to all humanity; your children will boldly and prophetically speak the word of God. Your elders will dream dreams; your young men and women will see visions. “ (Joel 2: 28) The Book of Joel is placed around 900 year BCE.
Your elders will dream dreams! This isn’t referring to dreams of bygone day or nostalgic dreams. God’s Spirit is the living Spirit, for the living people of God! These dreams are saturated with God’s imagination, filled with God’s instructions and when we dream these dreams are we to keep silent, tell no one? NO, God calls us to share our God-filled dreams with God’s people.
The New Testament’s view of old age is equally up front, no change in this getting old then we die, but the New Testament also emphasizes getting old but with purpose. Because God does have a purpose for each of us, no matter how old we are. We don’t die having no purpose! Hear what the Lord says!
2Exhort the older men to enjoy everything in moderation, respect yourselves and others, be sensible, and dedicate yourselves to living an unbroken faith demonstrated by your love and perseverance. 3And the older women: Be respectful. Steer clear of gossip or drinking too much so that you can teach what is good to young women. (Titus 2: 2-3)
“ and those who look through the windows see dimly ”
Your eye sight weakens,
“ 4 the doors on the street are shut ”
You get lonely, many of your friends are gone, the things you depended on, the things that allowed you to stay centered are all gone, changed or are changing.
“the sound of the grinding is low, and one rises up at the sound of a bird and all the daughters of song are brought low”,
You can’t get a good night’s sleep anymore and your voice gets weak and trembles.
“ 5 when one is afraid of heights, and terrors are in the road ”
You become timid and fearful.
“ the almond tree blossoms, the grasshopper drags itself along ”
Your hair becomes white, your limbs creak and you stumble.
“ and desire fails ”
Need I comment.
“ because all must go to their eternal home, and the mourners will go about the streets; 6 before the silver cord is snapped, and the golden bowl is broken, and the pitcher is broken at the fountain, and the wheel broken at the cistern, 7 and the dust returns to the earth as it was, and the breath returns to God who gave it. “
You die.
I know what I just said isn’t poetic, not like this reading from Ecclesiastes but it is equally blunt. Are we prepared for this? Well prepared or not - this is us!
The Old Testament’s view of old age, poetic at best, is still bleak but not without purpose. Listen to God speaking though the prophet Joel.
“28 Then in those days I will pour My Spirit to all humanity; your children will boldly and prophetically speak the word of God. Your elders will dream dreams; your young men and women will see visions. “ (Joel 2: 28) The Book of Joel is placed around 900 year BCE.
Your elders will dream dreams! This isn’t referring to dreams of bygone day or nostalgic dreams. God’s Spirit is the living Spirit, for the living people of God! These dreams are saturated with God’s imagination, filled with God’s instructions and when we dream these dreams are we to keep silent, tell no one? NO, God calls us to share our God-filled dreams with God’s people.
The New Testament’s view of old age is equally up front, no change in this getting old then we die, but the New Testament also emphasizes getting old but with purpose. Because God does have a purpose for each of us, no matter how old we are. We don’t die having no purpose! Hear what the Lord says!
2Exhort the older men to enjoy everything in moderation, respect yourselves and others, be sensible, and dedicate yourselves to living an unbroken faith demonstrated by your love and perseverance. 3And the older women: Be respectful. Steer clear of gossip or drinking too much so that you can teach what is good to young women. (Titus 2: 2-3)
Be a positive example. We elders are given instructions on how we should behave as an aged Christian, how to be role models.
Now listen to this wonderful example of God’s use of Old People: Luke 2:21, 26-32 our first scripture reading.
21 Eight days after His birth, the baby was circumcised in keeping with Jewish religious requirements, and He was named Jesus, 26 The Holy Spirit had revealed to (SIM ih uhn) Simeon that he would not die before he had seen the Lord’s Anointed One. 27The Spirit had led him to the temple that day, and there he saw the child Jesus in the arms of His parents, who were fulfilling their sacred obligations. 28 (SIM ih uhn) Simeon took Jesus into his arms and blessed God. 29 Now, Lord and King, You can let me, Your humble servant, die in peace. 30 You promised me that I would see with my own eyes what I’m seeing now: Your freedom, 31 Raised up in the presence of all peoples. 32 He is the light who reveals Your message to the other nations, and He is the shining glory of Your covenant people, Israel.
There are many other examples in the Old and New Testaments, showing God’s sacred use of us, elderly people of God for the people of God.
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR US?
We’ve looked at our current cultural fantasies, we’ve looked at some cultural misconceptions and we’ve taken a brief look at the true story of aging and purpose as told in the bible. So what’s left?
What’s left is our personal discernment for God’s chosen purposes for us, the aged, the elderly, the not young anymore. What’s left is for us, as a community of faith to encourage, exhort, and support each other in retelling the true story of aging. All around us we hear of aging congregations and what’s inferred is we; the old are of no more use, we are irrelevant, out of step, stuck in a past that is no more. This is not the true story of aging as told in the Word of God and by the living Word of God! God still has uses for us. God still calls us to service, yes; I know it’s not the same service God called us to when we were younger, God knows us better than we know ourselves! It’s time to reflect on God’s Word more deeply, to consider our life and the lives of others more deeply. It’s time we proudly live as positive examples of living, aging and yes, dying! The price for this sacred, beautiful, generous gift of life is death, yet, this cost is a small price to pay for being transformed in physical life, and dying to live the true life we are promised.
You are hearing all of this today because right here, right now, this family of faith is discerning God’s desires and God’s directions for this family of faith. To rightly discern God’s Will we need to hear the prophetic words of our children, we need to hear about the God given visions of our young men and women and we need to hear from each other about the God given dreams for our future walk with God.
I know you people, you’ll arrive at the pearly gates, enjoy the music, bask in the glory of the Almighty for a while, then you’ll say Ok, thanks, what can we do to help, what can we do to serve. And our Creator will give a great big belly laugh and our Lord, Jesus will be grinning from ear to ear and the Holy Spirit will nod and smile because we were listening and our joy will overflow as we continue to serve our Holy and Sacred Triune God. AMEN.
What’s left is our personal discernment for God’s chosen purposes for us, the aged, the elderly, the not young anymore. What’s left is for us, as a community of faith to encourage, exhort, and support each other in retelling the true story of aging. All around us we hear of aging congregations and what’s inferred is we; the old are of no more use, we are irrelevant, out of step, stuck in a past that is no more. This is not the true story of aging as told in the Word of God and by the living Word of God! God still has uses for us. God still calls us to service, yes; I know it’s not the same service God called us to when we were younger, God knows us better than we know ourselves! It’s time to reflect on God’s Word more deeply, to consider our life and the lives of others more deeply. It’s time we proudly live as positive examples of living, aging and yes, dying! The price for this sacred, beautiful, generous gift of life is death, yet, this cost is a small price to pay for being transformed in physical life, and dying to live the true life we are promised.
You are hearing all of this today because right here, right now, this family of faith is discerning God’s desires and God’s directions for this family of faith. To rightly discern God’s Will we need to hear the prophetic words of our children, we need to hear about the God given visions of our young men and women and we need to hear from each other about the God given dreams for our future walk with God.
I know you people, you’ll arrive at the pearly gates, enjoy the music, bask in the glory of the Almighty for a while, then you’ll say Ok, thanks, what can we do to help, what can we do to serve. And our Creator will give a great big belly laugh and our Lord, Jesus will be grinning from ear to ear and the Holy Spirit will nod and smile because we were listening and our joy will overflow as we continue to serve our Holy and Sacred Triune God. AMEN.